Category Archives: Advice for Gamblers’ Family

  • 0
family_support

Advice for Gamblers’ Family

Category:Advice,Advice for Gamblers' Family

What should I do if a member of my family has a gambling issue?

1. Look after yourself, especially your health. You can help your relative only if you yourself are not under stress.

2. Encourage the gambler to take responsibility for their own debts. Endlessly paying their debts is not effective in helping them give up gambling.

3. Encourage two-way communication: encourage them to talk about their difficulties. Do not criticise or compel them to admit their wrongdoing; this will only push them further away from you, making them afraid to face you and their problems.

4. Support them emotionally: listen to their problems and encourage them to deal with the problems, helping them shoulder their own responsibility.

5. Oppose their gambling behaviour explicitly. For example, do not praise or congratulate them when they have a big win, do not use the money to celebrate or for shopping and never provide money for them to gamble.

6. Do not attempt to control the gambler: not only is it ineffective, it will also make you even more frustrated.

7. Assist the gambler to have a correct view of money. Many gamblers think that money is the solution to their problems. Help them understand that money has its limitations and encourage them to find alternatives to tackle their problems. Avoid blaming the gambler for the money they have lost, as this may give them an excuse to gamble again.

8. Pay attention to financial management. With the gambler’s agreement, assist them with managing their finance. For example, take control of the family finance. Notify banks and credit firms to stop lending money to them. In addition, be sure to not sign any documents that you are unclear of or act as a loan guarantor.

9. Do not help gamblers conceal facts to any financial compay: this not only breaks the law, but is not helpful for a gambler seeking change.

10. Pay attention to your own safety: when necessary, you can put important documents and properties in a secure place to make it easy to carry away in case of emergency. If you feel your personal safety is threatened, seek help from the police.


  • 0

Financial measures for the family members:

Category:Advice,Advice for Gamblers' Family

Firstly:

  • Protect yourself;
  • Stop being a “facilitator” of gambling.

Then, Follow these general financial measures:

  • Do not repay the whole of the gambler’s debt in one go;
  •  Get to know all items of debts, the total amount and monthly repayments;
  • Try to have a debt restructuring plan;
  • Provide only limited money assistance and by instalments.

If your family member continues to gamble, you can try the following:

  • Cancel all joint credit cards;
  • Terminate all joint accounts;
  • You can privately open an account to protect yourself. Bank statements can be sent to your relative’s address;
  • Make sure that the gambler does not know your bank PIN number;
  • Keep valuables in a safety box to avoid the gambler from pawning them;
  • Check and destroy all pre-approved credit cards received in the post;
  • Do not guarantee any loans or take any financial responsibility;
  • Inform creditors of the gambling problem and request them not to lend any more money to the gambler;
  • Take control of managing the family’s finances.

If the gambler has stopped gambling, you can try the following:

  • Request the gambler to hand over or trim off all credit cards;
  • Request the gambler to transfer his salary into your account, and give them their living expenses on a weekly basis;
  • Request the gambler to explain their gambling problems to their creditors and offer to provide a repayment plan within thirty days;
  • Request the gambler to explain their gambling problem to relatives and friends and ask them not to lend out money to the gambler, in support of his recovery.