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Strategies to tackle gambling

Category:Advice,Advice for Gamblers

Money Management

  • Find a trustworthy relative or friend to help you manage your finance, acting as your financial manager (YFM). Let YFM allot your daily / weekly basic expenditure.
  • Avoid carrying cash, except for necessities.
  • Surrender your bank cards and/or chequebook to YFM for safekeeping.
  • If you receive your wages in cash, give it to YFM as soon as possible or authorise YFM to receive the salary instead of you.
  • Make arrangement with your bank to allow withdrawals by two signatures.
  • Discuss with YFM when you need extra money.
  • Seek out professional organisations to help with debt management.

Time Management

  • Arrange a structured timetable to avoid having long periods of idleness.
  • Report your whereabouts to a family member regularly when you are on your own.
  • Arrange beneficial and wholesome activities in your spare time, preferably accompanied by a family member or a friend.

Dealing with emotions

  • Listen to hymns, songs of praise or your favourite music.
  • Engage in healthy leisure activities.
  • Read the Bible, meditate and pray.
  • Talk things over and communicate with with a trusted relative or friend.
  • If necessary, seek help from your pastor or counsellor.

Stay away from triggers

  • Avoid things that attract you to gamble, such as gambling establishments, race betting tips, TV programmes and so on.
  • Decline invitations from friends to gamble; if necessary, break off the friendship.
  • Declare to your friends and colleagues that you have made up your mind to give up gambling.
  • Hand in “self exclusion” applications to gambling establishments.

The power of faith

  • Pray and seek help from God;
  • Pursue the biblical truth, carry around key verses to remind you to avoid gambling ;
  • Participate actively in church.
  • Participate in the Centre’s fellowships on Monday and Tuesday.  Being an active member of a church and fellowship will give you access to support and care.
  • Read Christian-themed books and watch Christian-themed CDs, DVDs etc.
  • Volunteer at the Centre.

A Final Note

  • Alcohol and drugs may weaken your vigilance and easily drag you back to gambling again, so you should not engage in substance abuse.

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Advice for Gamblers’ Family

Category:Advice,Advice for Gamblers' Family

What should I do if a member of my family has a gambling issue?

1. Look after yourself, especially your health. You can help your relative only if you yourself are not under stress.

2. Encourage the gambler to take responsibility for their own debts. Endlessly paying their debts is not effective in helping them give up gambling.

3. Encourage two-way communication: encourage them to talk about their difficulties. Do not criticise or compel them to admit their wrongdoing; this will only push them further away from you, making them afraid to face you and their problems.

4. Support them emotionally: listen to their problems and encourage them to deal with the problems, helping them shoulder their own responsibility.

5. Oppose their gambling behaviour explicitly. For example, do not praise or congratulate them when they have a big win, do not use the money to celebrate or for shopping and never provide money for them to gamble.

6. Do not attempt to control the gambler: not only is it ineffective, it will also make you even more frustrated.

7. Assist the gambler to have a correct view of money. Many gamblers think that money is the solution to their problems. Help them understand that money has its limitations and encourage them to find alternatives to tackle their problems. Avoid blaming the gambler for the money they have lost, as this may give them an excuse to gamble again.

8. Pay attention to financial management. With the gambler’s agreement, assist them with managing their finance. For example, take control of the family finance. Notify banks and credit firms to stop lending money to them. In addition, be sure to not sign any documents that you are unclear of or act as a loan guarantor.

9. Do not help gamblers conceal facts to any financial compay: this not only breaks the law, but is not helpful for a gambler seeking change.

10. Pay attention to your own safety: when necessary, you can put important documents and properties in a secure place to make it easy to carry away in case of emergency. If you feel your personal safety is threatened, seek help from the police.


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Financial measures for the family members:

Category:Advice,Advice for Gamblers' Family

Firstly:

  • Protect yourself;
  • Stop being a “facilitator” of gambling.

Then, Follow these general financial measures:

  • Do not repay the whole of the gambler’s debt in one go;
  •  Get to know all items of debts, the total amount and monthly repayments;
  • Try to have a debt restructuring plan;
  • Provide only limited money assistance and by instalments.

If your family member continues to gamble, you can try the following:

  • Cancel all joint credit cards;
  • Terminate all joint accounts;
  • You can privately open an account to protect yourself. Bank statements can be sent to your relative’s address;
  • Make sure that the gambler does not know your bank PIN number;
  • Keep valuables in a safety box to avoid the gambler from pawning them;
  • Check and destroy all pre-approved credit cards received in the post;
  • Do not guarantee any loans or take any financial responsibility;
  • Inform creditors of the gambling problem and request them not to lend any more money to the gambler;
  • Take control of managing the family’s finances.

If the gambler has stopped gambling, you can try the following:

  • Request the gambler to hand over or trim off all credit cards;
  • Request the gambler to transfer his salary into your account, and give them their living expenses on a weekly basis;
  • Request the gambler to explain their gambling problems to their creditors and offer to provide a repayment plan within thirty days;
  • Request the gambler to explain their gambling problem to relatives and friends and ask them not to lend out money to the gambler, in support of his recovery.

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Overcoming temptation

Category:Advice,Advice for Gamblers

1)    Stay away from temptation:
Don’t do as the wicked do, and follow the path of evildoers.  Don’t even think about; don’t go that way.  Turn away and keep moving.   (Proverbs 4:14-15)

2)   Change your motives and belief:
Run from anything that stimulates youthful lusts.  Instead, pursue righteous living, faithfulness, love and peace.  Enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts.   (2 Timothy 2:22)

3)    Be cautious and alert:
Stay alert!  Watch out for your great enemy, the devil.  He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour.   (1 Peter 5:8)

4)    Pray to God
Keep watch and pray, so that you will not give in to temptation.  For the spirit is willing, but the body is weak.   (Matthew 26:41)

5)    Resist the devil
Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you.   (James 4:7)

6)    Remember His Word
I have hidden your word in my heart, that I might not sin against you.   (Psalm 119:11)

7)    Pursue holiness
If you keep yourself pure, you will be a special utensil for honourable use.  Your life will be clean, and you will be ready for the Master to use you for every good work.
(2 Timothy 2:21)

8)    Devotion and faithfulness
Don’t be afraid of what you are about to suffer.  The devil will throw some of you into prison to test you.  You will suffer for ten days.  But if you remain faithful even when facing death, I will give you the crown of life.   (Revelation 2:10)

9)    Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.
(Proverbs 4:23)

Admit and repent if you fall down in a temptation  

If we claim we have no sin, we are only fooling ourselves and not living in the truth.  But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness.   (1 John 1:8, 9)


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Tips for dealing with gambling addiction

Category:Advice,Advice for Gamblers

1. You must accept that the money you have lost in gambling is lost forever.

2. There is no such thing as a “sure-win”.

3. Gambling will never solve your financial problems.

4. Engage in activities other than Gambling during your spare time.  Gambling is not entertainment but a costly mental drug.

5. Gambling actually increases stress rather than relieving it.

6. Do not under-estimate the adverse consequences of gambling.

7. Understand that your family wants you to quit gambling more than they want you to win money.

8. is difficult to quit gambling by yourself. You should seek help early from specialists.